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42 Rules for Divorcing with Children: Doing It with Dignity & Grace While Raising Happy, Healthy, Well-Adjusted Children

42 Rules for Divorcing With Children offers practical ways to manage a healthy divorce, build a better team in two houses, minimize stress and anxiety on all fronts, and construct relationships with open and consistent communication.

In this book you will learn:

  1. What putting the children first really means.
  2. How to preserve marital assets for you and your children.
  3. How to set reasonable ground rules for the divorce and going forward.
  4. How to set a respectful communication example so that you can divorce with dignity.

Use this book as objective advice, refer to it often, share it with others, use it as a reality check, and realize that divorce is not linear and that damage is not permanent or irreparable. If you do this well, the other parent will always be in your life. Find a way to make that tolerable for everyone, because no matter where you go or what you do, your children are tethered to both of you in an incredibly delicate and important way. Learn to accommodate each other as a gift to your children while they grow. Set good examples that will help them make their own relationship choices wisely by drawing on your positive experience. And for you, know that someday, somewhere, you will almost certainly find a partner with whom you can have a mutually respectful, loving, and responsible relationship.

This book will help divorcing parents in some simple ways that I wish I’d been helped as I stumbled my way through divorce with kids. I’m amazed at how well my Ex and I have been able to manage it and am constantly told by others that ours is an exemplary model for managing post-divorce life for our children and ourselves. Share others’ success stories for simple, practical advice and insights. See how taking care of yourself will help you take care of your family. This book will help prevent divorce remorse and divided loyalties. This distillation of what I have learned from my own experience and from watching others either succeed wildly or fail spectacularly at divorcing with children is what I call Divorcing with Tenderness, Grace and Dignity. Or, failing that, with Sanity, Self-respect, and Solvency.

Book Trailer for 42 Rules for Divorcing with Children: Doing It with Dignity & Grace While Raising Happy, Healthy, Well-Adjusted Children
42 Rules for Divorcing with Children: Doing It with Dignity & Grace While Raising Happy, Healthy, Well-Adjusted Children

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More and more marriages fail everyday and the true casualties are the children. Unfortunately, the very issues that caused the divorce often get in the way of successful co-parenting. No one knows this better than author Melinda Roberts. Melinda and her ex-husband had the typical ups and downs and in the process found a formula that worked for them. This book is the result of what they both learned and includes stories and advice from others who went down the same path.

This book captivated me from the beginning starting with the foreword by Heather Armstrong and kept me reading to the very end. Heather shared her story of being a child of divorce from her perspective as an adult who is going through the very same thing with her children.

There is lots of great advice in this book but my absolute favorite was the quote from Melinda’s daughter who was ten at the time. She said “When you tell your kids you’re getting divorced, hand them cupcakes first.” A wise person knows that cupcakes make everything better!

The driving message of this book is that you can have a good parenting relationship with your ex-partner so long as you put the children first. This book tells you what you need to know to make this happen and Melinda does it with honesty and humor. She includes several pages of resources for readers who need additional help.

In part IV Melinda says “Your children are watching and learning how to behave in a crisis: with integrity or deceit; grace or malice. Choose wisely and use your powers for good.” This is great advice that I wish I’d been given when I was going through a similar situation. I can’t help but think that this book would make an excellent present for someone you know who needs it.

Bonnie Jo DavisOctober 26, 2012

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Mindy Roberts’ “42 Rules for Divorcing with Children” is an honest and thoughtful book on a difficult and painful topic. It’s chock full of humor and insightful experience on how to divorce while doing the best to build a better life going forward for the family that was and is to come.

The information in this book is also helpful for family members who are on the sidelines of those going through the process as well as those evaluating their current relationships.

What especially resonated with me was the repeating message to release resentment and move forward with empathy and hope. To me that acknowledges all the seething mess of bad feelings and encourages channeling it into refocusing on the life you want to live forward.

If you’ve been following Mindy on her blog, TheMommyBlog(dot)com, through the years, you know she speaks from experience; her wit and heart are familiar friends. If this is your first time reading Mindy’s work, you’re in for a treat. I highly recommend this book.

jMomOctober 5, 2012

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In her compulsively readable book, Mindy Roberts deconstructs the myth that couples with children can truly get divorced. With humor and insight, Mindy explains why remaining a family after divorce is crucial for the well-being of the children, and provides practical tips for reconfiguring post-divorce families. Every divorcing couple, or any couple contemplating divorce, should read this book.

Virginia Gilbert, MA, MFT, Specializing in High-Conflict Divorce, and HuffPost Divorce Blogger

Virginia GilbertOctober 4, 2012

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Mindy Roberts’s book is a must read for anyone with children who is in the initial stages of a separation, currently separated, or divorced, or even those who are engaged in high-conflict co-parenting. Mindy’s take on what to expect and how to realistically manage these situations by keeping your eyes on the prize–happy, healthy, adjusted children–will help keep you sane and smiling. The marker of success is not how we handle things when they are working, it’s how we handle things when they fall apart. You are not alone, and keeping this handy book beside you will help you find the success you’re looking for–no matter how hopeless you might think things may be!

Diane Holcombe, RN, Life and Wellness Coach

D HolcombeOctober 4, 2012

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As the other parent (OP) in this particular family dynamic I can honestly say Mindy nails so much of how we, and I would imagine many other parents, would ultimately like the outcome of divorce with kids to be – handled with grace and dignity. But it’s hard!! What I like about this book is that it’s a great reference tool to really help shortcut the process of dealing with the several years of emotional challenges you’ll invariably face, punctuated by the guilt you’ll feel for ‘letting your kids down’. Time DOES heal all wounds, and they heal much faster when the sanctity and well being of your kids is the center point. Mindy nails the salient points as to how to get there that often times are so hard to see or understand in the moment but make all the sense in the world with time and perspective. Save some time and gain perspective by reading this book!

Gil Roberts (My EX-HUSBAND!)October 7, 2012

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If you don’t think you need 42 Rules for Divorcing with Children, you’re dead wrong. If you’re not getting a divorce, your best friend, coworker, sibling, or even your mom will be, and they’ll need the 42 Rules to help them through it successfully.

So go out, buy half a dozen copies of Mindy’s book, and hand your divorcing friends and relatives 42 Rules for Divorcing with Children along with your sympathies and the phone number of a good divorce lawyer.”

Anne-Marie Nichols, publisher of This Mama Cooks! On a Diet

Anne Marie NicholsOctober 8, 2012

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Honest, to the point, must-know information. Divorce lawyers may not like it but everyone else will. EVERYONE should read and follow the path(s).

AlNovember 2, 2012

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We have had a lot of friends go through divorce. During the “blame phase” there is a time when focus too often moves toward punishment. It is during this time that when the innocents of a broken marriage get pulled into the battle. Ms Roberts provides an easy read on a hard subject. If followed it should help the children adjust and leave a lot more money for their education and, if necessary, counseling. Divorce isn’t easy and seldom the result of planning. Parents can use this guideline by Roberts to help the children come out on the other side better adjusted and with less emotional baggage. Her points on children seeing what used to be their loving parents trash each other (and the bank account) with ultimately no ROI and no college fund left reminded me of close friends. Everyone facing a divorce, or being a spectator to one, can learn from the do and don’ts of this cleverly written and structured book. Ms Roberts subtitle “…..raising happy, healthy, well-adjusted children” should be the goal and this book will kept divorcing couples on track in protecting their children. The readership should also include the grandparents or people with friends going through a divorce – guiding and keeping us from being part of the problem. Good job Mindy Roberts – divorce lawyers might not like this book, but I highly recommend it.

dm51November 5, 2012

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“42 Rules for Divorcing with Children,” by Melinda Roberts, is a *must* have for any parent divorcing, contemplating divorce or already divorced. Unlike other books about kids and divorce, 42 Rules is not preachy or judgmental in tone. It is also practical and down-to-earth. Most important, it puts the kids first–and as we’ve learned from decades of nasty divorces, kids are often the ones who are hurt the most.

Melinda Roberts thoughtfully draws on her personal experience as mother who divorced with three children while tapping into her expertise as the founder of The Mommy Blog, one of the first true mom blogs that started years ago before mom blogs became popular. She is also an inspiration, having happily remarried in 2012 and successfully blending three more kids into her family.

I am hoping she writes a similar book about being a successful step-parent to happy, healthy, well-adjusted kids.

Kristina GeiserDecember 11, 2012

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“42 Rules for Divorcing with Children,” by Melinda Roberts, is a *must* have for any parent divorcing, contemplating divorce or already divorced. Unlike other books about kids and divorce, 42 Rules is not preachy or judgmental in tone. It is also practical and down-to-earth. Most important, it puts the kids first–and as we’ve learned from decades of nasty divorces, kids are often the ones who are hurt the most.

Melinda Roberts thoughtfully draws on her personal experience as mother who divorced with three children while tapping into her expertise as the founder of The Mommy Blog, one of the first true mom blogs that started years ago before mom blogs became popular. She is also an inspiration, having happily remarried in 2012 and successfully blending three more kids into her family.

I am hoping she writes a similar book about being a successful step-parent to happy, healthy, well-adjusted kids.

Kristina Geiser

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A few years ago, my neighbor moved with her boss, leaving three small kids. Everyone assumed it would be a train wreck, but they surprised us. They continued to co-parent and celebrate holidays and watch softball games and dance recitals together – we once got a Christmas card that included the kids, the nanny, both parents, Dad’s new wife and Mom’s boss/boyfriend. I always wished there was a way to show other friends divorcing like train wrecks how civilized it could be.

Now I can send them this book. It’s an excellent guide to being a grownup and taking the high road during a very difficult time, to behaving well now so you can look yourself in the mirror later, to limiting the damage to your kids as much as possible.

Best book on divorce I’ve ever read. Highly recommended.

ReaderGrrlJanuary 5, 2013

Mommy Confidential: Adventures from the Wonderbelly of Motherhood

Take a woman fresh out of college, plop her down in the Silicon Valley, saddle her with a mortgage, let her ride the tech boom, give her three babies in four years, slap her with the tech bust, Mommy Confidential: Adventures from the Wonderbelly of Motherhood is a naked, brutally funny, endearingly honest chronicle of family life beset by disaster on many fronts. Mindy keeps her family together through catastrophic illness, four bouts of postpartum depression, financial peril, familial Waterloo, and job instability. All through it her sense of humor and her sharp, edgy, witty writing keeps her together and upright. No, really. Mindy Roberts spent twelve years as a mild-mannered nonprofit employee. After the birth of her third child in four years, Mindy began to write about her life and children in the sleepless hours in an effort to capture her young family’s world in real time.

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Remember Nora Ephron’s Heartburn? Years ago that book taught me how to make it through life’s crises with a sense of humor. Working mom Mindy Roberts updates the concept of laughing until your ribs hurt through financial dips, health scares, and of course, heartbreak.

Wonderful, warm, wisecracky and perfect with a glass of wine at the end of the day.

ReaderGrrl January 29, 2008

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I LOVED this book. I have read it several times since Hubby purchased an autographed copy directly from Mindy for Christmas 2006. She is honest and funny… has been through all the things we have been and isn’t afraid to share her fears, frustrations or spontaneous combustion! Hubby sits beside my bubble bath some nights and is frequently found looking at me oddly, wondering what the heck is so funny. Sometimes I share.

Jamie L. PetersonJanuary 29, 2008

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This refreshingly real account of Mindy’s adventures with life is like a long chat with a girlfriend. Ms. Roberts’ book is honest, real, funny and sometimes heartwrenching; however, always a delight. She doesn’t let the trials and tribulations ruin her sense of humor as she conquers motherhood was grace and style.

Joy M. Hall January 27, 2008

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When I was first starting my own blog, I stumbled across the wonderful world of Mommy Bloggers. It was like this wonderful block party. Only it was on the Internet. So I emailed many of these bloggers, asking, shyly, if I could be invited to the party. So many of them responded with a hearty, “Yes, and bring the cocktails.” And one of the first ones to welcome me with open arms was Melinda Roberts, proprietor of The Mommy Blog.

Melinda has a loyal, snarky following, which goes with her slightly snarky blog about her life, her kids, her ex, her gourmet-cooking boyfriend. But her blog is also warm and poignant, too, as it started as a way for her to make sense of her son’s life-threatening illness early in her life. Thankfully, that son is now a healthy child who drives her somewhat crazy — as all healthy children should do to their mothers. But the blog, thankfully, has blossomed and grown. In fact, I’m happy to say that it’s blossomed and grown into a real live BOOK.

MOMMY CONFIDENTIAL: Adventures From the Wonderbelly of Motherhood, is that book. It’s just as warm, witty and yes, wonderfully snarky, as her blog. I can’t imagine having gone through what she has while still retaining my sense of humor. But she certainly has, and I recommend her book to everyone looking for a laugh, a cry, a warm fuzzy feeling – and an excuse to go gross out your children by smothering them with sloppy hugs and kisses.

So go read Mindy’s blog, and buy her book. You’ll be glad you did.

M. LynneFebruary 9, 2007

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Reading Melinda Roberts’ new book, Mommy Confidential: Adventures of the Wonderbelly of Motherhood, is like spending an evening with your best girlfriends. I’m probably one of the few people (in the universe) who has not read her blog, but I’m so glad I ordered this book. It is fun, it is invigorating, and it is packed with brutal honesty.
What’s so unique about Roberts’ book is that many of the events she records are written about within minutes of them happening — so we get to experience the ups and downs of life with small children as she does. Her nearly daily entries reveal the truly tender, life-altering, and heartbreaking moments of motherhood in a way that no other book on the subject does.

And Roberts is not just funny ha-ha. She is I-can’t-breathe-I’m-laughing-so-hard funny. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that she either turns this book into a stand-up comedy routine and takes it on the road, or that she comes out with a sequel. Regardless, I’ll be keeping up with her future adventures on her blog.

Anjali Enjeti March 15, 2007

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I came upon Melinda Robert’s wonderful and whimsical book during one of those dark moments all of us mothers have. Both in her book and in her blog, the author gently reminds us not to take ourselves too seriously. I have given her book as a gift to so many mom friends. I promise this “memoir of sorts” (don’t you love that sub subtitle?!) will lighten your days. Happy reading!

L. MatisonApril 26, 2007

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My husband brought me this book – as a blogger and a mom he thought I would enjoy it and boy, was he right. Mindy Roberts tells the story most moms live – overextended, constant crisis management with a side order of chaos. And she doesn’t hold much back. She is brutally honest, not just with others, but herself. She manages to talk about her kids in a way that makes you want to keep them for yourself, even when they’re running naked down the street. Maybe especially when they’re running naked down the street.

H. WoodwardMay 30, 2009

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Melinda Roberts may be young but she has got one hell of an experience. Although she goes through absolutely insane early years of motherhood including that horrible disorder a lot of us mothers suffer, Melinda (who calls herself “Mindy”) takes life in strides. She is a wonderful mother who struggles to keep her life in order for the sake of her children.

Hadiyo Jim’aleApril 7, 2009

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Mindy is no-doubt snarky and real. She reconstructs moments of calamity, of bliss, of despair, and of hilarity with a fresh use of language. (My favorite example: “Christ in a sidecar!”) I feel the book is a little long and sometimes overuses an expression or literary technique so that it becomes distracting…but I’m definitely Hooked on Mindy.

Kevin BetoJuly 27, 2008

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Mommy Confidential: Adventures from the Wonderbelly of Motherhood by Melinda Roberts is a witty, heart-breaking, and real-life chronicle of a young divorced mother of three in Silicon Valley. Her fast-crack wit will give you a benevolent case of whiplash as she moves through her days of chaos, calamity, and cuddling with her kids. Her irreverant and unapologetic take on motherhood is refreshing, making it stand out from other, perhaps more polished diatribes on contemporary parenting. The rough and tumble of raising boys is also evident, yet there is always an undercurrent of unshakeable love for the tykes who call Mindy “Mom”. The reader accompanies the author’s journey over several years: from daughter Daisy’s first steps to her trying to save her brother from ‘certain death’ on the floor. High drama and deep belly laughs are guaranteed from this first-time author. I look forward to reading the sequel!

Christine Louise Hohlbaum, author of DIARY OF A MOTHER and SAHM I AM: TALES OF A STAY-AT-HOME MOM IN EUROPE, lives near Munich, Germany, with her husband and two children.

Christine Louise HohlbaumNovember 5, 2006

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